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Love,Unconditional,Unconditional Love
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Love,Unconditional,Unconditional Love
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Unconditional Love
You have probably heard that unconditional love is unattainable
between couples or that it is actually the love a parent feels for his
or her child. I would never contradict the second, but I will certainly
dispute the first.
Learning to listen, understand, speak, and experience, are all processes of love. Perhaps you believe yourself to be the master of all the above or that you have successfully now reached a stage that it does not make any difference whether or not you are truly there for your partner. My honest opinion is that such an idea would be a disaster. If you are in a relationship that you love and respect your partner, then it is imperative for you to be willing and able to give without asking anything in return. If a person has managed to capture your attention and has been holding it ever since, then that someone is probably someone you want to see happy everyday. Treating your partner with respect and being truly open when expressing your thoughts and needs to him or her, while focusing on your partner's best interest and allowing him or her to act according to their will, is what unconditional love is all about.
It takes great courage and unselfishness to be able to experience life through the eyes of another person and yet leave room to both of you to grow within. Understanding your partner and managing to develop the necessary communication channels is the type of hard work that unconditioned love requires. Instead of expressing demands, state preferences. Instead of acting on your own, allow the other person to be part of the process. Ask for their help when in need and let them help you when they can. Being able to carry the entire load yourself is always possible-you have proven it a million times-so, how about letting another individual show you how much they care for you?
Unconditional love is not possible, in my opinion, if the other person is not your best friend. But most of you might consider that knowing who you really are is a difficult and in many instances a rather painful personal experience. It would be at least unfair to let someone see behind your actions and examine your thoughts up closely. Well, it might be a bit scary, especially if you have never tried it before, but believe me when I tell you that you will be thanking yourself for the results. No person can truly love someone if they are not ready to open up themselves to the possibility of getting hurt in the process. Love is a risky business and you probably want to avoid having to heal in case of a misfortune, but experiencing love as equal partners and disclosing yourself to another individual is the only step you can take towards a fulfilling relationship.
Concluding, unconditional love is all about trust; trusting yourself apart from your partner. Letting your vulnerability surface is in most cases the most difficult part in the process. But the results cannot be easily dismissed. By allowing your partner to see who you are right now will make you feel less afraid that you will be rejected in the future. This unconditional love deal is not a contest of who gives in more. It is actually a process of beginning to know thyself while investing time, energy and thought in getting to know that specific other.
Learning to listen, understand, speak, and experience, are all processes of love. Perhaps you believe yourself to be the master of all the above or that you have successfully now reached a stage that it does not make any difference whether or not you are truly there for your partner. My honest opinion is that such an idea would be a disaster. If you are in a relationship that you love and respect your partner, then it is imperative for you to be willing and able to give without asking anything in return. If a person has managed to capture your attention and has been holding it ever since, then that someone is probably someone you want to see happy everyday. Treating your partner with respect and being truly open when expressing your thoughts and needs to him or her, while focusing on your partner's best interest and allowing him or her to act according to their will, is what unconditional love is all about.
It takes great courage and unselfishness to be able to experience life through the eyes of another person and yet leave room to both of you to grow within. Understanding your partner and managing to develop the necessary communication channels is the type of hard work that unconditioned love requires. Instead of expressing demands, state preferences. Instead of acting on your own, allow the other person to be part of the process. Ask for their help when in need and let them help you when they can. Being able to carry the entire load yourself is always possible-you have proven it a million times-so, how about letting another individual show you how much they care for you?
Unconditional love is not possible, in my opinion, if the other person is not your best friend. But most of you might consider that knowing who you really are is a difficult and in many instances a rather painful personal experience. It would be at least unfair to let someone see behind your actions and examine your thoughts up closely. Well, it might be a bit scary, especially if you have never tried it before, but believe me when I tell you that you will be thanking yourself for the results. No person can truly love someone if they are not ready to open up themselves to the possibility of getting hurt in the process. Love is a risky business and you probably want to avoid having to heal in case of a misfortune, but experiencing love as equal partners and disclosing yourself to another individual is the only step you can take towards a fulfilling relationship.
Concluding, unconditional love is all about trust; trusting yourself apart from your partner. Letting your vulnerability surface is in most cases the most difficult part in the process. But the results cannot be easily dismissed. By allowing your partner to see who you are right now will make you feel less afraid that you will be rejected in the future. This unconditional love deal is not a contest of who gives in more. It is actually a process of beginning to know thyself while investing time, energy and thought in getting to know that specific other.
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