Lovers: The Intricacies of a Relationship
Lovers of God, sometimes a door opens,
and a human being becomes a way
for grace to come through...RUMI
This world would be lonely without love and
lovers. Relationships carry the important
function of blending the physical/material
needs with the emotional, the psychological
and the spiritual side.
What do you offer in a relationship? Going
into a relationship blindly often spells
disaster. It does not mean that one has to
prepare a checklist before getting into a
relationship. This spoils the spontaneity.
What moves you to accept a commitment and get
involved?
- urgings of the flesh, physical attraction;
- dazzled by the glitter of material wealth,
success and social status;
- to battle loneliness or a rebound from a
broken relationship;
- a meal ticket; or out of sympathy
- a matter of convenience
- love
There are many facets to a relationship. Each day
brings surprises- some are exciting, some can
be challenging. At times, underlying issues surface
and must be dealt with before it gets blown out of
proportion. Face and discuss these issues. Is it emotional,
physical, sexual, health, cultural, social, psychological,
financial or hormonal? Yes, do not forget the role
of hormones.
Financial and economic problems can be devastating
if these are not taken cared of. Honesty about
the financial state of a relationship is important.
Don't let the flame of romance die. Express your
passion through sex, savor the ecstasy. Sex is
an integral part of a loving relationship. A fulfilling
sex life can bring wonders to lovers that goes
beyond the physical state.
When two people can not discuss issues, tension
builds up. Discord settles in. This opens wide
the portals of discontent and temptation. Apathy
becomes a shield. The love that once brought
two people together turns sour and bitter.
In anger, things are blurted out without thinking.
Issues surface reflecting inner insecurities,
doubts and worst- fears. Anger is a tool to vent
frustrations which at times is not related
to what started it.
Words are the cheapest commodity but can bring
about the most damage in terms of emotions,
physical well being, mental and spiritual health.
Words blurted out in anger can open deep wounds.
Words that drip with malice can reverberate for
a long time.
Sometimes, what we tend to dislike or disapprove
in the other may reflect an inner conflict that
has been simmering, just waiting to boil over.
Going separate ways is an easy way out. When
lovers find a mutual bonding, respect and love
for each other, the channels of communication are
open. This paves the way to a peaceful, harmonious
and loving relationship. This gives strength to
both as their love deepens. This is empowering.
Relationships founded on mutual love, faith and
respect tend to ride out the stormy days. There
will be times of conflict, difference of beliefs
and opinions which can end up in a screaming
fight. But deep love can hold lovers together
against all odds.
May your relationship be peaceful. May faith and
love light your way and keep you strong. Happiness
can be yours.
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