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Love may come many a times in our lives, but the ecstasy and exuberance of first love is the most delicate and memorable among all. First love is perhaps the most intimate feeling that human being share because the time is not ripen yet to see the light of the rough hard core business minded artificial and ruthless world. So the tender soul adjust the softness of the this emotion, which occurs in your heart during adolescence.
A guy awaits for a girl at the gate of the school, from where she gets out everyday and goes back to her home. The lad follows the maiden and ultimately his eyes are in the quest for her face all day long. His mind always paints pink dreams of her rosy cheeks, he hears the violin strings with the way she talks and the fragrance of her hair keeps pampering his nose. These stories never stop to get repeated. Love may come like the breeze as well as like the storm but when it comes at last, it is an absolutely wonderful emotion and the young minds keep drowned in this. Desires are gradually poking one's temperament and often it seems impossible to ignore them.
"The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can never end."... says Benjamin Disraeli. This ignorant, naive, childlike mind plays with these naughty and gay emotions of adolescence when Cupid's arrow strike somebody for the first time at even the 'first sight of the beloved', which we call love at first sight. Theoretically first love can happen in any age or not happen at all. But most people had fallen in love for the first time when they were teenagers. That exciting new experience most of us remember very well during all our life. For an adult his/her own high school problems and the problems of their children seem very funny, silly and simple especially compared with all the difficulties of adult life. Somehow we forget how tragic and full of drama life and relationships were than in our adolescence.
"First love is a little foolish and a lot of curiosity."...says George Bernard Shaw. Actually the adolescent mind is full of curiosity and it finds mystery in almost every event of the world. Therefore when the emotion of love, attraction of mental and physical desires occur for the first time the curiosity and rebelliousness reaches to its height and often attempts something really radical. It can be very happily end into a long term relationship as well as it may result in painful break ups.
People say first love is one of the most uniquely unforgettable things. One may forget everything but not his or her first love. This is not a utopian notion but those who have experienced this once in lifetime, have considered this as the fact. They may left their lovers a long time ago... after that, when they are peacefully settled and living with their families... they still cherish the sovereign and purest of the memories of their first love. When for the first time the break ups happen to anyone, it pains a lot, because the joy and ecstasy one enjoys from the first experience ever of falling in love is like fresh flowers, the perfume is strong and exhibit a extraordinarily long lasting effect.

"If you love someone you say it,...
you say it right then, out loud,...
or the moment just... passes you by.."
My Best Friend's Wedding
A movie has always been an all-time favourite way to spend the Valentines Day, unless it is two separate movies, for the two celebrating this very special day! This 14th February, one can very easily fire up their love-life,or that very special day, by a high profile contemporary film with that of a classic one. Just see how a movie can say about one's love life..
Doomed Love:
Sometimes the most enchanting love is the one that can never be. Whether it's the yearning look in Francesca Johnson's eyes as Robert Kincaid drives away in the rain at the end of The Bridges of Madison County (1995). Or the self-sacrificing nobility with which an Englishman masquerading as a prince says goodbye to the princess he's come to be in love with in The Prisoner of Zenda (1937 or 1952).
One can even try pairing Titanic (1997) with Roman Holiday (1953). One on this very day, can let the black-and-white beauty of Gregory Peck, Audrey Hepburn, and those breathtaking Rome vistas set the mood, and sail on to Leonardo DiCaprio, Kate Winslet and James Cameron's stunning evocation of the ship that even God couldn't sink.
FORBIDDEN LOVE
It is said that, the Forbidden fruit always tastes the sweetest, especially in movies. For a fun and thought-provoking double feature, start with last year's surprise-hit, Kissing Jessica Stein, in which two women (stars/co-writers Heather Juergensen and Jennifer Westfeldt) hesitantly experiment with a lesbian relationship. It's funny, fast-paced and surprisingly sweet, and not at all prurient.
One can even follow Kissing with Love -- Love Field (1992), with Michelle Pfeiffer as a repressed wife in 1963 Texas who, on a cross-country trip to attend John F. Kennedy's funeral, tries to puzzle out her attraction to a black man (Dennis Haysbert) who gives her a lift along the way..
LITERARY LOVE
Sometimes the best love stories are about people who write stories. It's hard to go wrong with Shakespeare in Love (1998), in which the Bard of Avon (Joseph Fiennes) tries to figure out the plot of his new play Romeo and Ethel the Pirate's Daughter while dallying with a lovely, young and completely stage-struck aristocrat's daughter (Gwyneth Paltrow).
A more recent but oddly less modern writer, C.S. Lewis, is the unlikely hero of Shadowlands (1993). Bookish and withdrawn, Lewis (Anthony Hopkins) comes alive, when brassy American poet Joy Gresham (Debra Winger) bulls her way into his life.
MAGICAL LOVE
Love is magical, of course, but sometimes magic is love, too. Remember Tom Hanks and a mermaid in Splash (1984) or Christopher Reeve following Jane Seymour into the past in Somewhere in Time (1980)?
Perhaps the best-ever romantic fantasy is Ghost (1990), with a spectral Patrick Swayze clinging to existence out of love for Demi Moore. Both leads are at their best, and Whoopi Goldberg won an Oscar for her hilarious turn as a bogus psychic who starts seeing real dead people.
For a double feature, one also try Steven Spielberg's underrated Always (1989), with Richard Dreyfuss and Holly Hunter as a couple so perfect that one knows they can't last. It's Spielberg's most romantic work by a long shot, and Audrey Hepburn, in her last film, has a charming cameo.
MUSICAL LOVE
There'd be no musicals without love songs -- think of Gene Kelly dancing outside Debbie Reynolds' window as the skies open in Singin' in the Rain (1952) or Judy Garland singing "The Man That Got Away" in A Star Is Born (1954).
Start with the peerless Top Hat (1935), clever enough to be counted among the classic screwball comedies if it weren't for the distraction of the dazzling Fred Astaire/Ginger Rogers dances and Irving Berlin's wonderful score.
Songs by everybody from Jule Styne to Lennon/McCartney and Madonna are heard in Moulin Rouge (2002), and director Baz Luhrmann makes it all work beautifully. Nicole Kidman is a knockout, Ewan McGregor proves to be a wonderful singer and Jim Broadbent bellows ''Like a Virgin'' as if it were the most natural thing in the world.
ON AND OFFSCREEN LOVE
Does it matter if on-screen lovers connect off-screen as well? Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman never really clicked on the big screen, after all, and Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger never set the world on fire.
But for a life-imitates-art double feature, one can try Adam's Rib (1949) and To Have and Have Not (1944). In the former, longtime companions Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn do their patented comedy/drama blend, with a nice turn from Judy Holliday as the aggrieved wife whose case pits defense attorney Hepburn against prosecutor Tracy. In the latter Humphrey Bogart meets Lauren Bacall, and even after 60 years you can still see the sparks. It's not much like the Hemingway novel, but it's a classic.
TEEN LOVE
The most iconic love story of them all, Romeo and Juliet, is the definitive teen romance.
10 Things I Hate About You (1999), however, draws on a different Shakespearian source. This clever reworking of The Taming of the Shrew features career-making performances from Julia Stiles and Heath Ledger in the lead roles, but the supporting cast -- especially Alison Janney, Larry Miller and Larisa Oleynik -- is equally good.
The little-known Dogfight (1991) makes a soberer matchup, with River Phoenix at a career peak as a young soldier who meets a gawky folk-music fan (Lili Taylor) in Vietnam-era San Francisco. He comes to mock her but stays to know her, and ultimately it's one of the most achingly believable films ever made.
TIMELESS LOVE
Some say that young love is the only love? But one can easily come out of this thought, if one checks out Laurence Olivier and Katharine Hepburn in Love Among the Ruins (1975) -- the age gap between the two, is a bit too much, but they still make this tale of an aging actress and the barrister.
One can also add How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1998), in which a 40-something executive (Angela Bassett) and a 20-something Caribbean stud (Taye Diggs) prove once and for all that age is only a number.

To keep the fire in our hearts we must ascertain what we want. I find it useful to write it down because it makes it more definite. As we write, we focus on what we want and we may even think of other things that we did not think of before. So, write a list of how you want the magic in your relationship rekindled and be really specific. The next step is to use your imagination and envision a future with all that you want in it. Decide on a time in the future that you want your relationship to have the magic rekindled. Let us say that it is in six months time. You might want to choose a different time span.
Close your eyes and sit as you would in meditation. I prefer to sit upright and with both feet flat on the floor.
Relax and notice your breathing. Focus on your breathing until you feel you are in a calm place.
Then, imagine yourself in six months time being with your loved one and having the magical relationship you want down to the very last detail. Yes, detail is so important.
Notice what you are wearing and what you have on your feet.
Notice how you feel, what you can see, hear, touch, taste, think and what you are doing and saying.
Notice how you are interacting with your loved one.
Really make sure you are in this picture. Now make it bigger! Make the relationship even better than you first envisioned and this will expand how wonderful you feel.
As you experience your magical relationship look back over the last six months and see how you achieved this. What did you need to do differently, what did you need to say differently, how did you need to be?
How do you see your loved one being and how are you interacting together?
Really notice everything that brought you to where you are, six months into the future (or whatever time frame you choose).
Taking time is really important.
When you have done this, step into yourself in the future. Get up and act as if you are six months into the future and really feel all of those same feelings, notice how you are standing and how wonderful you feel.
Really embody everything, feel yourself interacting with your loved one in the way you envisioned.
Then, look back at your original self, sitting on the chair and tell your original self what he/she needs to know in order to move forward and have the rekindled magical relationship that you are experiencing. Spell it out.
Then step back into your original self by sitting on the chair and receive the message from your future self.
Reflect on the message, what you have envisioned and how you felt and now feel. You might like to write down your experience and drawing a picture is a wonderful fun way to capture your experience. Just remember that you do not have to be an artist to do this. I love using the thick crayons that young children use.
By now you must make a decision to take the first step toward achieving what you want. Then use your will to do it. It only has to be a small step but do it. Take the risk. You might not get it right to begin with but, if you do not try, you will never know. When we first started to walk as a child, we stood up, held on to furniture or our parents, fell down, stood up and tried again. Give yourself permission to fall down but do not give up.

Anita Jackson, speaker, counsellor/psychotherapist and healer, is the Author of Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship! Making Love Work.
This Love Doctor Provides Honest Guidance and Reveals The Secret You Must Know to Completely Transform Your Relationship to its Highest Potential.

The origin of love spells cannot be traced to any one place, as they have been in existence through ages in all parts of the world. Hence, the history of these spells is difficult to pinpoint. In ancient times, the most common way of casting love spells was by making a wax image of the person who was the target of the spell and casting the spell, so that the actual person would get attracted towards love through the wax image. Love spells were practiced as a form of witchcraft in earlier times. At that time feelings such as love were considered as fancies of gods and people had a belief that they could coax and soothe these gods by casting love spells on them. In modern times a love spell is merely a method to help a person make a love connection with another.
Most love spells have only one aim of influencing and controlling the desired person. Since ancient times people have believed that charms and potions are the most powerful mediums for casting love spells. It has been the oldest and the most widespread human beliefs of all times. In the second century, the philosopher Apuleius was accused and acquitted of using a love potion to attract his wealthy wife. Many spells today too are based on age-old practices. For instance, one wears or makes the intended person wear charms on the body or places them next to the bed to arouse love in that person and hence this ancient practice is quite popular in today's times too. Earlier, each tribe followed their own type of love spells and they had tremendous belief in witches and wizards, who according to them could solve all their problems and fulfill their desires. Even today, the most popular reason for people's involvement with witchcraft is love spells.
Hence, love spells have been a universal phenomenon through the human history. They have been an integral part of the Greek and Egyptian mythology. The Greek and Egyptian binding spells have been extremely well known in ancient history and are popular even today.

Magic is known to be of two types, white magic and black magic, and both have been performed since ages. White magic is mainly used to create a positive effect whereas black magic has always had a negative aspect to it. Black magic and love spells together are considered a strong combination, as black magic involves a lot of spells that help to create wonders in love related matters. Black magic has always been known as evil but black magic love spells can be used in a positive way. For instance, these spells are normally used to protect love and get back lost lovers. Hence, at times people do not refer to black magic as being evil, instead it is regarded as a concept to remove all the dark clouds from life by a different means than a white magic spell would.
Black magic love spells involve a lot of witchcraft and objects such as voodoo dolls. The most important thing that is involved to cast a black magic love spell on a person is energy. The entire black magic procedure is based on energy levels. The spells come in various types and serve different purposes. For instance, there are spells to reunite lost lovers, to have healthy marriage relations, to get back love who is with someone else, to improve love relations, to change a friend's mind and attract him towards love, and so on. Black magic love spells also include gay spells, break up spells, and lust or sex spells. Gay spells are designed to help gay and lesbian people fall in love with each other whereas lust spells helps to improve sex appeal between two lovers. Break up spells are normally used to end relationships thereby bringing an end to love amongst lovers.
There are a number of black magic love spells offered online through various websites. Some of these sites sell the spells for different prices, others give them away. People can also receive various spells from experts by giving them the concerned person's name and date of birth. Though some people do not take black magic as evil but controlling a person by crossing the line in a blatant manner is negative in every way, as it is done without the person's consent.

It has been said, "Trip over love, you can get up. Fall in love and you fall forever." Albert Einstein, one of the foremost scientists of modern times, once concluded that gravitation cannot be held responsible when people fall in love. Perhaps what he was really trying to get across was the fact that love just happens and cannot be planned or executed. There are no rules to falling in love, it just happens and when it does, few are left sensible enough to ask why, when, what and how.
Now, it is absurd to attempt understanding love, not only because the task is impossible but also because falling in love requires no comprehension. People fall in love all the time - with animals, with inanimate objects, with places, with themselves and of course with each other. Most times people fall in love without even realizing that they are doing so, and when realization does strike, they are already in too deep. For those who believe in the laws or karma i.e. what goes around come around, love becomes something inevitable. As per these laws, people fall in love in a particular lifetime because their actions in earlier lives deemed it so. Everything is determined by the past, the individuals falling in love, the opportune moment, and the time length of the relationship. This may be a hard principle to grasp practically, but as humans, it gives us hope by telling us that what is meant to happen, will happen, and it will only happen when the individual is ready.
In this age of modernization, technology is being used to paint over the landscape of love. Love letters are being replaced by emails and chat rooms have taken the place of secret midnight liaisons. Individuals can look for brides over the Internet and use online community portals to meet their better halves. Some may even go to the extent of getting married online. Falling in love has become a science that functions in the unrestricted world of computers. However, the advent of technology into lovemaking cannot be scoffed at, since many people have met their soul mates on the Net and gone on to live happily ever after. The only risk is that perhaps, the loss of personal contact will make people fall in love a lot slower and possibly make relationships a bit colder.

Falling in love with someone has always been considered as something natural. No one can force a person to fall in love with another but in today's modern world nothing has remained impossible. A natural phenomenon such as falling in love is said to be able to be controlled with the help of love spells. A person can be made to fall in love through love spells. A love spell is defined as a formula that is created especially to find love and attract someone towards love.
Love spells are designed with a specific aim of helping to find true love. They do not include any sort of sexual emotions in the way that sex magic does. The main goal of sex magic is to bring about a desired result through emotions of sex, which may or may not necessarily be love. There are various types of love spells that range from simple incantations to complex magical rituals. Love spells can also have different forms. For instance, they can be in the form of jewelry such as amulets, objects such as talismans and voodoo dolls, drinks that could be potions and philters, powders and so on. Love spells are designed to not only find and attract, but also help to enhance and stimulate love. These spells are also used to bind two lovers by improving or increasing their sex appeal. There are a number of websites that have collections of a lot of these love spells and put them into various categories. One can subscribe to these sites and as members, can have access to different spells such as arousing spells, attracting spells, binding spells, breaking spells, compelling spells, divining spells, and invoking spells. Each category of spells serves different purpose. The procedure of casting love spells mostly involves candle burning and using magic.
A love spell can be just about anything. It can either be a prayer or just a heart-felt wish. There are various books available too on how to caste a love spell and use them to attract another person.

A recent survey has revealed that men love to get flowers almost as much as women do, but their masculine nature prevents them from admitting this. After all they are human beings too, with the same feelings as women who want to be appreciated and reassured at some time that they are loved by the one they are with. It is common knowledge that women love to receive flowers, but most of them have not ever considered sending flowers to the man in their lives, that is with the exception of a few sensitive women, who do not feel uncomfortable in showing their guy that they really love and appreciate them, by sending them flowers, or maybe just a Rose, (preferably yellow or peach, although some men might think that Red Roses are the way to go to show your love).
When a man receives flowers he probably has the same reaction to them as women do, a feeling of love and caring and it must surely boost his self-esteem in many ways, making him feel fulfilled in every way. That wonderful feeling that someone cares for you can really do wonders to the way you look at life and things in general. You will get more confidence in yourself, and also feel more comfortable with your friends and colleague because you know that there is someone out there who thinks you are important to them and are glad that they have you in their lives.
You should consider sending an arrangement with a masculine touch to it, but also with a definite romantic tone. Orchids are a neutral flower that can be given to either men or women. Orchids come in a variety of colors such as the "Lady Spider" which comes in dark green, purple or chocolate shades. These can be arranged in a masculine looking vase. Also there are black Roses like the "Black Magic" or "Hocus Pocus" which are quite masculine and make a very nice flower arrangement when placed in a nice leather container holder.
Now that you are aware that men do appreciate receiving flowers, next Valentines Day, don't be the only one receiving flowers for the special day, surprise your mate and send him a huge basket of wine, with chocolates and cookies and add a Rose to the arrangement, for that personal loving touch, he will certainly be surprised and excited, especially if it's the first time that you are sending him flowers. Don't worry if you can't wait for Valentine's Day, just send him a flower because you care.

A love song is a work of art, a talent for which not many people have the patience or skill. It is often said that to write a love song, an individual has to be in love; only then are the emotions acute enough to pick up on the appropriate sentiments.
Words are not the only components of a song. The music, voice, and tempo make just as much of a difference. That is why there are very few love songs that deserve the title "best." Of course, there are good love songs, but only once in a while does a song come along that speaks of love so beautifully, in a voice so strong and true, that people just cannot help but succumb to the melody. These songs include classics from the likes of Nat King Cole, Eric Clapton, Bob Dylan, and of course the King himself - Elvis Presley. Dylan did not record many love songs, but when he did, it always turned out to be a poetic masterpiece like "To Make You Feel My Love." His words are so sensible, affectionate, and unaffected that they can make the staunchest go weak in the knees. Elvis Presley was and perhaps will always remain the most romantic man on the music scene. Songs such as "Heartbreak Hotel," "Are you lonesome tonight" and "Love me Tender" are still being crooned out by men in the hope of getting lucky. The Beatles' super hits, such as "A Hard Day's Night", "Maybe I'm Amazed," and "In My Life," defined a generation's lovemaking skills and have the ladies swooning even today.
Maybe some men are experts, but the ladies are not left far behind. Especially in recent years, female artists have come up with some of the most sentimentally sober songs in the history of love. Women such as Alicia Keys with "Fallin'", Kelly Clarkson and her "A Moment Like This," and "Shakira with "Underneath Your Clothes" have made a mark on the lives of lovers with lyrics that depict reality, and not the flimsy expectations that some have from their relationships. However, the best love sings are definitely the ones belted out by the evergreen divas - Barbara Streisand, Celine Dion, Shania Twain, and Cher. Their songs not only have the beauty of tunes and words, but also are all the more fantastic because of the sheer passion of their voices.

With Valentines Day right around the corner, I've been thinking a lot about love and romance. Love was probably first expressed by the caveman, although I'm sure he didn't express it with flowers and candy. The caveman probably gave his girlfriend a huge slab of meat to show his love for her. I know she appreciated it too, because food would have meant more to her than a handful of colorful weeds!
Love had such a high standing in Greek society that they attributed it to Aphrodite, the Greek Goddess of Love. Aphrodite is the name attributed to two different goddesses, the first being the goddess of spiritual love and the second, more widely known, being the goddess of physical attraction.
Both were beautiful, but the second was described not only as a beauty, but full of life and as a result, irresistible to the gods and men alike. Her myth begins with her father, Zeus, being worried about her so he arranged a marriage to a sturdy man, Hephaestus, the Smith God. Aphrodite wasn't satisfied with this droll life and proceeded to encourage other male suitors. She is named as the lover of Adonis and mother to four of his sons. Resulting from her irresistible attraction and these many dalliances, we still today speak of using an aphrodisiac to entice the opposite sex.
The Romans adopted Aphrodite as their love goddess, renaming her as Venus. She was revered as the goddess of fertility, encompassing fertility in both man and nature. Venus continued her wicked ways under this new name, taking several lovers despite her married status. She was the inspiration behind many famous works of art to include statues, paintings and of course a slew of poems and stories.
Today we mention Cupid when thinking of love, which is also fitting as he was revered as the Roman God of erotic love. His lineage is questionable, but he is often depicted is as the son of Venus. His counterpart in Greek mythology is Eros, also the God of erotic love and some say he is the offspring of Aphrodite. This relationship makes sense to me as romantic love often leads to erotic love.
Regardless of the generation, love is never perfect nor is it easy. There are always struggles to overcome and distances to breach. Invoking a goddess of love doesn't seem to make things easier, but at least you would have someone to commiserate with... unless she stole your partner! I hope your love life is filled with happiness and perhaps even inspiration for the next generation.

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"Healing your own heart is the single most powerful thing you can do to change the world." -- Deepak Chopra
You Can't Give Away What You Don't Have
Before you can love others, you need a strong foundation of self love and self acceptance. When you have this strong foundation, you easily attract more love into your life.
When you love & accept yourself you set strong boundaries; the actions and words you hold other people to. You also raise your own standards which includes the actions, words and thoughts you hold yourself to. The higher level of boundaries and standards you have, the better quality of loving relationships you attract into your life.
Feel the Love
This week I want you to play with a few ideas.
1) First, listen to your thoughts about yourself. Simply notice what you say to yourself about yourself. Do this for the first 2 days this week. * What percentage are positive? What percentage of your thoughts are negative? What percentage are neutral?
2) Now I want you to raise your standards regarding your thoughts about yourself. I want you to only think thoughts about yourself that are unconditionally compassionate and positive for the rest of this week. If a negative thought slips in, approach it with lightness. Say to yourself something like; "Oh, thank you for sharing." Then immediately convert that thought to something positive.
2) Notice how your mind/emotions/body/spirit feel as you become completely positive about yourself.
3) Notice if you experience other people differently or if they experience you differently.
As you experience changes from these practices, please email me with your results. I'd love to hear from you.
Copyright 2007, Iris Fanning. All Rights Reserved Worldwide. Reprint Rights: You may reprint this article as long as you leave all of the links active, do not edit the article in any way and give author name credit.

"I love thee, I love but thee; with a love that shall not die; till the sun grows cold and the stars grow old." Shakespeare
"The course of true love never did run smooth." Shakespeare
BUILD THE FOUNDATION
I invite you to take a look at the other 3 articles I wrote about love. These articles are brief guides for a strong foundation for love that lasts. When you've done your work of clearing your past, bringing forth the God presence within you, being the person you want to be, defining what you value and attracting a partner who is aligned with what you want/need and who honors you...the "work" of a relationship is MUCH easier.
MAGIC KEY
There are many reasons good relationships continue to be really good. I would need to write a book to cover all aspects. Instead, let's keep it simple and give you one key that will help you enjoy and sustain your partnership. Are you ready? OK, memorize this thought.
People fall in love with you because of how they feel about themselves when they are with you.
When that person falls in love with you, they feel smarter, funnier, prettier, taller, thinner, more confident, more loving, walking on air, sexier, happier, healthier and like they can master anything.
One of the simplest ways to create your great relationship is to check in and see if you feel like this in your partner's presence and if they feel like this in yours!
Here are a few easy thing you can do to encourage you and your beloved to feel wonderful in each others' presence .
Always say good morning to your partner.
Never leave one another without saying "I love you" and kissing each other.
Always tell your partner how beautiful, handsome or sexy they are.
Hold hands when you walk together.
Tell your partner they are the best!
Tell your partner they're brilliant.
Listen to your love.
Never go to bed mad.
Never say anything that will damage your love's opinion of themselves.
Often go the extra mile so your love doesn't have to work so hard.
FEEL THE LOVE
First, jot down how you feel about your partner currently and how you think they feel when they are with you. Then write 10 more things that you can do to make your partner feel special. Now, do several of these things a day. Do this without the expectation of getting 1 for 1 in return. Then notice how you feel and notice the reactions of your beloved. Write this down and notice any changes. Again, keep a notebook or computer page so you can see our growth during this year. Enjoy!
WHY LISTEN TO ME?
What makes me an expert in relationships? Of course I have the credentials (M.A. & B.S. in Psychology, Counseling & Guidance; Graduate of Coach University; Awards from: The New Mexico Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, Community Agencies & Albuquerque Public Schools; Over 20 Years experience in Coaching & Counseling).
Additionally, what makes me a credible expert is that Ken and I have been happily married for 22 years. We continue to enjoy one another, have fun, learn & grow in all kinds of ways.
Want confirmation? Our 20 year old son said to me this summer, "Mom, you may not always think I listen to you. When it comes to relationships & marriage I really listen to you. I've watched you and dad. I see how happy you guys are, how much you love each other, how close you are, how much you like spending time together and what fun you have. Of course I'm going to listen to you about relationships."
Copyright 2007, Iris Fanning. All Rights Reserved Worldwide. Reprint Rights: You may reprint this article as long as you leave all of the links active, do not edit the article in any way and give author name credit.
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It's not everyone who can put words of gold onto paper. But there are plenty of people who wish they could.
Romantics fall into that category, and every day, thousands of people search online for terms such as "free love letters," "Valentine poems" and the like. It's a good bet most aren't just looking for a love letter they can pretend was written to them. Plenty are after love letters they can use.
The idea isn't so unusual: we buy greeting cards and e-cards all the time that already express some sentiment. We just choose the one that best says what we're feeling. It's the same idea when people look for love letters they can either send to a loved one or that they can model their own words after.
A love letter is a wonderful thing to send to someone you care about any time of year, but obviously Valentine's Day (and ok... maybe Sweetest Day too) is an ideal time to have some words you can use. If you're not a natural with words, go ahead and do that search for "free love letters" or "Valentine poems," because there are plenty of sources online to get you started. Where they permit it, you can download free e-cards or copy the materials and use them as you like. Where they don't, you can at least get a feel for the kinds of things you like to see in a love letter; read enough love letters online and you'll have plenty of ideas for crafting your own romantic prose.
Keep in mind, too, that any sincere words of love that you share -- at Valentine's Day or any time of the year -- are likely to be well received. So truly, put your heart into it and make a day just a little more special for someone you really love.

For many people, Valentine's Day season is dreadful. Some people call it V-Day, as in D-Day! Maybe you think it's just a commercialized holiday where retailers are just trying to get your money. Perhaps you find yourself bitter around Valentine's Day because of a breakup; thus the term "the Valentine's Day Blues". There are many ways to fuel your Valentine's Day Blues. On the other hand, maybe you are a hopeless romantic who looks for every opportunity to express your love to others. This can cause a condition I call "Valentine's Day Bliss". Which condition will you decide to have?
How to give yourself a case of the Valentine's Day Blues:
For Singles:
o Go to an "I hate Valentine's Day Party"
o Get angry at all those red heart-shaped cellophane boxes of candy
o Play your last favorite love song and regret your last heartbreak
Blues for Partners:
o Refuse to buy a card or gift because you are boycotting Valentine's Day
o Forget the holiday altogether and pretend it never happened
o Buy gifts and then complain how commercial the holiday is.
You don't have to sing the blues! You have some alternatives that can help you to enhance find bliss this Valentine's Day:
Blissfully single:
o Attend a Valentine's Day event with friends; be a successful single! Maybe you will meet someone fantastic who has a good attitude like you!
o Buy or do something special for yourself that you want (romance yourself!)
o Spend time with your other single friends, doing and activity that you find incredibly enjoyable.
Bliss for relationships:
o Plan for a sexy adventurous date together: after all, won't you then have a blissful time?
o Let your partner know with a card or love letter the things you most love or appreciate about them! Offer extras, such as a massage or cook a special dinner
o Plan together something you would like to do, such as see a concert or boat ride
If you can't think of a romantic date, search for "romantic ideas" online
As with most things in life, how much you enjoy Valentine's Day is directly related to your attitude. Whether you are single, or in a relationship, if you plan to be miserable, you probably will. On the other hand, if you plan to have fun, then you probably will. So don't hate Valentine's Day; decide to have fun. If you are single, concentrate on having fun with yourself and your friends. If you decide to go out and do something interesting, maybe you will meet someone great who shares your interests and your positive attitudes. If you are in a coupleship, Valentine's Day is another way to express your love and desire for each other, to be silly, and corny, and a hopeless romantic with the person you love.
If you are unsure what your partner expects or how they would like to spend Valentine's Day, why not ask them? You can start your own traditions, if the traditional candy and flowers doesn't work for you. Don't let yourself come down with a case of the Valentine's Day Blues. Love and appreciate your partner every day, including Valentine's Day. Most likely, your partner will appreciate and reciprocate this effort, and you can enjoy greater relationship satisfaction. Take every opportunity give and receive love. Now that's bliss.

As January and February wear on, it's easy to slip into the winter doldrums. After all, with wind and rain lashing at your windows and those dark morning journeys to work, who wouldn't start to long for balmy summer days? However, there are some days that you can look forward to during the slow winter months: Valentine's Day, for instance, is a certain fixture in everyone's calendars, whether you're concocting a surprise for that special someone or simply planning to send your mother a card.
It might seem a bit like Christmas has only just finished, so your potential to come up with new and exciting Valentine's Day gifts might be fairly strained. Rest assured, however, there are plenty of resources available - both on the high street and the web - that can help you come up with innovative gifts for your loved one, whatever your budget.
If you're planning to spend a lot this Valentine's Day, there are plenty of options available to you: for instance, if you plan far enough in advance, why not take your partner to an exotic holiday destination? Spend a week in a romantic island location, such as the Seychelles or the Maldives, and you're sure to stoke the flames of passion during your vacation. Alternatively, travel a little closer to home and take in the romantic wide sandy bays and clear water of Jersey, or spend a weekend in rural Yorkshire or the Scottish Highlands; the rugged beauty of the surrounding scenery is sure to ignite the romantic in you, while the searing cold outside will give you an excuse to cuddle up close!
If you're on a slightly tighter budget, think about buying a unique piece of jewellery for that special person in your life. Many jewellery retailers will stock excellent Valentine's Day gift selections for both men and women. So if you're interested in buying a diamond ring or silver plated earrings for your wife or girlfriend, or you're longing to find a pair of cufflinks or a gold watch for that handsome man in your life, you'll definitely be able to find what you're looking for.
Of course, for many, Valentine's Day is simply a day to spend time with your loved one, rather than an excuse for lavish presents. In this case, a simple card and a special bunch of Valentine's flowers [http://flowers.taxfreeshopping.com/SearchResult.aspx?ProdPage=679,%20[http://flowers.taxfreeshopping.com/1_7_t_/Flowers.htm]] are sure to do the trick! Flowers are often one of the most meaningful gifts you can give on Valentine's Day; better yet, flowers are a gift you can give to a variety of people, from your mother to your best girl, or your boyfriend to your closest male pal. After all, Valentine's Day is about showing the people you love how much you care about them - and a beautiful bunch of flowers is guaranteed to do this in style.

There is an individual definition of love which is very personnel and intimate. Love can be defined or explained only by those who experienced such a wonderful emotion. And again every one in this world has his own unique view point in this case of love. In other words the definition of love from every one will have a definite difference from the other.
In a crude manner love can be explained as a chemical state of mind that's part of our genes. It is not that simple. The upbringing has a lot to do with this emotion. Family restrictions and discipline may have caused premature death to this sweet romantic emotion.
Is it a chemical composition or human pheromones (the excitement carrier) that inspire this emotion? Or is it an inherent sense of reproduction and procreation? Certain preset conditions are set in our brain. It is like a search engine in the internet language. The moment you see the person something in our mind clicks regardless of the caste, creed or religion.
May be it is the dress, the personality or mannerisms or something else that stimulated the attraction. The body odor or the smell of the sweat or something else may have caused the attraction. It could be romantic passion or simple plain lust. If it is erotic passion it has a lot to do with chemical process, similar to that of animal passion.
The hormones estrogen and testosterone instigate sexual desire in the youngsters after puberty. Sociological restraints enforce controls and the immature youth suppress their erotic urges.

Love has something to do with our genes influenced by the chemical process. Romantic imaginations compliment and strengthen the feelings of love. Lust may have been the root cause of the attraction and urged him or her to take the initiative. Rational thinking does not cause impediments to the progress of love. But the thoughts are clouded with the sharpened images of the person. Romantic passions engulf any possible resistance. In simple words they fall for each other. They crave for each other. The social upbringing inspires restraints to their impulses to get closer to each other.
Love is blind. They look at each other with their eyes and drink in the physically attractive features and they are possessed by the lust. Their senses refuse to see the other side of the individual or the not so attractive and repulsive features. The initial attraction dominates the senses.
The lovers' fantasy gives way to romantic passion and true love. The romance capture their imagination and they move towards each other with grace and sociological considerations. Respect for the society and the obligations direct them towards matrimony. Suppressing their initial erotic urges, they exercise patience and wait till the day of marriage to join in harmonious union.
The overwhelming emotions and the control exerted during this period may have enhanced their love. The intensity and magnitude of their love will remain imprinted in their memory for a very long long time. They are inclined to spend several hours getting to know each other. This attraction will remain bonded and strong and a third person will find it extremely difficult to penetrate this fort.