Thursday, April 25, 2013

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Love in the Making! The Basic Requisite to Achieving Perfect Health

The root of emotional sickness is lack of concern and love.... Too many people now are love-starved. Too many people are too busy with themselves that they themselves are strangers to themselves. Weird? funny? no, some are so busy that they have forgotten their own existence. Their health, physically lacking of exercises, mentally lacking of right concepts...., emotionally lacking of concern and love and straying further and further away from spiritual health too. These people have forgotten as to how to take care of themselves, how do you expect them to take care of you? Where is concern and love? To be expecting others to do so is a task, it is better we, ourselves to take up the first step, learn to care and be concerned of oneself before we can share with others.
I am repeating this phrase written by Anthony Robbin: "People don't have limited resources, they have limited states. Emotions or our state we are in determines our perception of reality and thus our decisions and behaviors. If we are fearful, shy, bored, depressed or stressed on a consistent basis, we will not be able to access the resources to succeed." It means that if we cannot master our emotions and that if these emotions were to interfere with our work and jobs, we will not be able to achieve what we want to achieve, that is success! Most of us are emotional beings easily affected by our emotional states, especially anger, hate, love, fear and hurt. To not to provoke and to positively response to being provoked is a skill by itself. Let's learn to be emotionally stable, though not easy but not impossible.
What is the use of this 'something' if you dont actually have 'anything'? Penny wise, pound foolish. Spare or allocate some time out to show concern and love to just anyone... oops,..... I am not telling you to simply love everybody's body. I am telling you to be a lovable person and a person with morals and discipline. All of us will be drawn towards people with high personalities, these people demands our respect by what they do and say. Respect is earned, not bought. Trust is earned too. Plant grapes, bear grapes of virtues, the bigger the bunch is, the more virtues one can accumulate. and the more loving he or she is. Be emotionally stable, heed not those feelings of uncertainty or lack of faith or confidence.
The spirit
We are who we really are!
Spiritual knowledge always come along with religions, faith, beliefs and God. Simple understanding...... just accept that Love is God, God is Love. Be immersed and absorbed in love. Love will move a mountain, love will sooth one's fears, love will touch one's heart, love will melt the most stubborn, the hardest stone, love will evoke an understanding of give and take, love will cure, will maintain and will repair a broken heart. Love will keep on moving, keep on doing things patiently, till one day you will realize that actually you are also on the way to gain spiritual health.... a pace a day, a step a day, just keep on doing what one is required to do, differentiate between right and wrong, bad and good, acquire all the good attributes.... yes, you are...... You are also on the path to gain spiritual health... yes, you are., believe me.... because Love and God are the same!
Going into this spiritual health and wealth needs patience and time to understand. It doesn't matter who you are and where you are now, but the journey towards achieving spiritual health is open to all. The path is there ever since time, it will be there and always will be. There is no short cuts nor easy ways. It is not about dreaming to obtain it, but it is practicing and working it out with your brothers and sisters of your faith, of your church, of your beliefs. There is no conflict in either ways of achieving it. There is no specific rules and regulations or laws to make or force one to do it his or her ways. What is more important is where are you going? When our body starts to decay and rot, where will you be then? Where are you going?
Gradually...yes, one day, you will come to realize who you really are. You will get to know where you come from and where you are suppose to go... home? haha..... mystical? abstract? cannot accept? cannot imagine? or just impossible? Close your eyes, keep quiet for a few minutes, breathe in slow, deep and steady, try to listen with your heart instead of your mind, relax..... you will be hearing your inner voice, a voice that comes deep from within, the heart... listen carefully... to what it says... you will slowly feel something.... and hear something...
The above are just very brief explanations on our body, mind, emotion and minds and how important it is to keep them healthy and working fine. Remember to look at things as a whole, not only a part, to get a better view and understanding of total health and happiness, try to look at things from all angles of health. Start with love, end with love, and you will be in love. It is a bliss, an eternal joy to last that all of us can possess. Love is for all.......

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How to be Inspired by Life Through a Friendship with a Leaf

One day, quite accidentally, I became inspired by life, permanently. It was not a huge moment, nor one of those divine experience. It was just another moment in the day, but this one was extraordinary. I was playing with a dried up old brown leaf. Twirling it by the stem, the light shone from it, then through it then around it. The small branches that held the leaf body in shape were happy creatures reaching out from the stem obviously hunting for light.
This day, I saw a reflection. A beauty unspeakable. I felt love like never before. The leaf disappeared and a whole new vista opened up, right there, in my office, in front of 20 staff, I just started to be inspired.
I always twirl leaves, it's a habit of mine. Any leaf I find I twirl. I twirl leaves like a Sufi twirls a skirt. I twirl walker. In the twirling I saw the whole of creation, an earth going round, with things, colors fabrics and life. It was a miracle for me, an amazing discovery, that this leaf could really be, for some tiny weeny creature, a world of its own.
That tiny creature would feel itself important, it would feel itself significant and have goals and duties. It would discover things like the wheel, space craft and DNA. Yes, this world would be a vital one, and everyone on it would study themselves in the hope of become not of the leaf.
I started to laugh, I started to laugh loud. I was one of those creatures on the leaf, except my leaf was much bigger than this one. I thought I was important too, just like the leaf people. I started to laugh even louder now. I thought of the speed at which I could vaporize this leaf, and therefore how insignificant that leaf and all the lives on it were.
I thought about the universe, the greater story of creation and the smallness of our earth, one little ball, going around a big ball called the sun, and that ball hanging out with nearly a billion other balls, in a universe of which there are 50 billion known in space.
So what is your BE LEAF? Do you BE LEAF that you are really, really important. Are you CORN ected to the rest of the universe or living in a bubble. Have you given time to consider the value of your time here and after.

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How to Improve Your Relationships in Life

How to create more loving relationships through a non violent lifestyle.
The deepest beauty of all of life is love and the greatest love you will ever experience, is the love you give. We speak of enlightenment, but what greater enlightenment can exist other than the true love and devotion we have for life itself. The key to all this is the ability to see beauty, everywhere. If you are limited to seeing beauty only where things are beautiful or conform to your expectations, you can not know real love. Real love is the ability to see beauty, everywhere, in everything, and to do so, you will need the universal laws. It is from a universal perspective, far, far beyond the realms of the earth that all the chaos actually turns to order.
This is the purpose of all learning. Learning how, to see and feel and therefore give more Love, more Sacred Love.
A healthy relationship has a foundation
A mutually understood foundation
Not physical, emotional or material
They change like the tides, or the moon, or the winds
Not moral, or religious, they are of the ego they are of the mind.
The exchange of love that lasts
Is built on something beyond the human realm
Something divine, sacred and profoundly eternal
That foundation can be
Truth.
And to know truth we must get past
the guardian at the gate,
the Ego.
Whether you are in a relationship or looking to get into one, the universal laws are a profound gift. It is our reactions to life that cause us drama. If we could live without reaction, and simply stay inspired by hopes and dreams of the future we could stay open hearted, fulfilled and completely in balance during our lives.
But, we do react, and this is the violence we must change in our lives. The more extreme the reaction, no matter how much we feel justified in it, the more violence we are sending to the world. Whether you feel that your parent abused you, or your partner betrayed you, there is always a deeper layer to which you can grow.
On the surface of life, you want to be right, but below the surface of life you want love. Love is not right, and it certainly has no conditions. You must know the difference between the surface, we call this emotion, and below the surface we call the deep stillness.
When I scuba dived in New Zealand South Island, I dropped into the waters from a boat, the water was brown, murky, impossible to see more than half a meter. Then as I decended to 5 meters, the water was crystal clear, I could see literally for miles. The surface was where the plankton and fresh water from the incoming rivers flowed, but beneath there was a mighty ocean of clarity. This is relationship.
We may find ourselves liking and disliking people, but this is the surface, reacting to those likes and dislikes validates, legitimizes that surface. But the surface is not real, not complete, deeper below that surface there is love for our fellow man, woman, as a brother or a sister. Here, we are really aknowledgeing that we are all connected to each other, but on the surface, we feel very separate.
On the surface of life, we all have identities. I am Chris Walker and you are you. But this is a mask we wear, and the relationships we develop at this level are sad. They are poor even if they have wealth, they are reactive and sensitive and short lived. We cannot hold this mask in our privacy. That mask gets undone in our home. We can masquerade in the outside world and parade ourselves as identities, but in the home, we are exposed.
This is at the root of domestic violence. The person who puts on a show to the world will want the show to continue in the home. Like an actor who cannot separate themselves from their character. We see this cause so much drug addiction and self abuse in famous people, they just can't live with themselves in the privacy of their home.
So, non violence begins when we take the following steps.
1. We must avoid reaction
2. We must learn to go deeper than our individual identities
3. We must witness our reflection in others
4. We must accept that our relationship in private is more honest than the mask we wear in public.
5. We must avoid blaming others for how we feel.
Try it, embrace the opportunity to live in a deeper experience of the world than your reactions, beliefs, experiences. You must know that love is at the core of everything, hold that truth. Let your love rise up into the murky waters on the surface of life, and be prepared, when your feel bruised or defensive to stop and dive below to come back to truth.

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Love in the Making! The Basic Requisite to Achieving Perfect Health

Love is the basic requisite for the 4 dimensions of health [body, mind, emotion and spirit]
What have I to write about this thing called 'love'? Love. yes, love. Let's look at love as a whole, not the love like cheap thrills or romance in books or movies or videos that has been exaggerated or put up just for a show so as to have you entertained. Do not always emphasize on the physical act of love that only takes up a few percent of what is love. Don't be reminded of such sexual acts whenever you see the word love. It is not about making love, but love in the making. A genuine love should be radiating and reflected in our eyes, our face and expressions, and in everyday's words, actions and thoughts.
The universal language of human at the beginning of this universe where all living creatures lived together in harmony and knew no evils, spoke no evils, did no evils waasss Love...no! issss LOVE!. It is LOVE! It was not until a great change took place where these creatures started to understand and recognize sins. It all started with eating the forbidden fruit. The forbidden fruit which was strictly reminded to be left alone, was plucked, eaten and shared...... When Eve was lured into temptation, she failed the test miserably! Ever since then, sin was born.
From there, the tree of knowledge opened human's eyes and minds..... Humans started to see good and bad, the right and wrong...........From then on, humans know about shame, about lies, about deceit, about jealousy, about unkind acts, about hate, about envy, about the many negatives... Worst of all, when we humans haven't master the art of self-discipline, self-control, master the power of choice, and haven't actually understood what is GENUINE LOVE as expected of a human, problems arises......And evil took rule for some who acquired the dark side of knowledge. Not until one can master and control our mind, our emotions, our body to achieve spiritual health that the world will be at peace. Do you think that all these terrors and misfortunes and disasters will come to an end one day?
Here comes an interesting question that I encountered long ago... one of my students asked me.... Why did God put that tree there and let the 'girl' have access to the fruit so easily? God can predict, God can do anything, everything, nothing is impossible to HIM... It is His fault too.... I laughingly told him that yes, maybe to you, God is to be blamed, but maybe it is you who is actually to be blamed. YOU CAN CHOOSE NOT TO GO NEAR THE TREE AND NOT TO EAT THAT FORBIDDEN FRUIT, right? One can choose to say 'No!' so, it is one's choice to do it or not to! haha...whose fault is it?
Our Creator loves us so much that He gives us freedom, an uncommon freedom of choice. Like a father who loves us so much that sometimes he spoils us by too much pampering, though knowing that it will spoil us..... But once the dam burst, nothing can be spared, no place can be saved, as this thing 'evil' slowly seeped into human's mind, creating havoc, creating disharmony, creating fear and hate.......until today....and all of us are suffering from the aftermaths of it. Until one day, when humans understand this power of love, contributing in self-awareness and the awakening of what should be done and what not to be done. Only then, he is immune to this sufferings or pain and stay detached.
Try to understand before accepting, Try to evaluate and find out for yourself....search for the truth. Truth was the answer, is the answer and will be the answer. It will be never changing, and truth will remain as truth. What is this connection link to this 4 dimension of health? The answer is the power of LOVE that moves us on in achieving total health and happiness. So that we know how to care for our body, mind, emotion and spirit. Love is the basic requisite to total health.

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Love? Sex? Oh! That is Just 5% of What Love Might Represent! What About the Other 95%?

All of us are blessed to love and to be loved, Cheers!
TO LOVE is to show by examples of loving all mankind through sharing and caring.
TO BE LOVED is to expect readers to understand the message of 'to love and to be loved' and learn from it and apply them to yourself, your family and to all other humans beings. Why?
The message here is clear and dear. Love is a great topic where no one is not touched. But perhaps to many people, love is restricted to only just that special one or just within the family or his circles of friends. It is not wrong too. Isn't this love only for someone or our parents or those whom we are related? "Ask me to love others? Impossible, they don't love me, why should I love them?" I want to mind my own business, I am too busy with my 'loved ones'.
But if one can just accept the fact that we are brothers and sisters living in the same planet, Earth, try to expand this most powerful emotion, LOVE for all. What I am talking now is about divine love, a genuine love which is called an UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Our Lord even loves the sinners, it is true! Loving sinners and everyone of us. Aren't we also sinners? If God discriminate people in groups of saints and sinners, which category will we be then? Where can God place us then?
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Let's look at the types of loves that people always eye differently. When we talk about love, many minds would be reminded of the physical act of love between males and females. Oh! that is just maybe 5% of what love might represent. What about the other 95% Love? A white blank sheet of paper dotted with a small black spot; and the rest of the paper left untouched! What can we see on this piece of paper? The answers of most people will be seeing the black dot, not the 95% of the paper which is white!
Well, it is just natural.... nothing to be alarmed... Most of us have been trained to see the black spot, not the big white space that surrounds the black spot. Most people are not trained to see the white space in the paper. Most people looks at things negatively.

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Love? Sex? Oh! That is Just 5% of What Love Might Represent! What About the Other 95%?

This is a conditional love, a selfish love that doesn't or won't allow a third party. Is it good or bad? Can you imagine a someone who loves all and practises polygamy? That is not correct too. For goodness sake, think twice..... which do you prefer, monogamy or polygamy? I can predict chaos, disputes, jealousy, envy, selfishness .... if one allows multiple partners. Maybe I am conservative, maybe you are not, but to prevent is better than cure. Since this love is expressed by sex physically, don't distort sexology which should be sacred as well between husband and wife. Sex is part of our life as of food and drinks. It is a physiological and emotional need shared between loved ones.
Don't be a pervert. Be principle-centered. Ying and Yang balancing emotional acts will bond a loving couple whereby an imbalance will upset them. Lust and uncontrolled desire are negative forms of human love. To possess another person's body or mind, be it physically or mentally is something unkind. At least, love is about sharing and caring. It is our culture, our attitude towards how one looks at sex. Too much explicit and wrong concepts of sex from different medias have influenced our society and causing an alarming degrading of moral values among us. Let's pray that this negative will come to a stop. It all starts from us, as parents to set a good example.
Don't get yourself involved, be wise.... for the sake of all... for the sake that love or sex between spouses is sacred as should be, and meant to be a positive and healthy practise.... It is an attachment, sometimes a headache when there is a misunderstanding. Think twice, there is always this law of love. Don't be entangled in the webs of miseries, lies, desperate cries and eventually these marriages will soon die off
[5] Friends' loves
Friendships among friends are genuine relationships. Friendship is earned through trials and errors, proven with time, cemented by trust and forbearance. Mutual respect is one important trait between friends. 'Be friendly but not too familiar' is also a phrase that I always emphasize. As married friends we know our limits as not to go too personal.
A friend is ever so kind and understanding. A friend is ever so caring and considerate. A friend is ever interested in our work, but not interrupting. A friend is ever so concerning, be we literate or illiterate.
A friend's smile will be so enlightening. A friend's smile will be so encouraging. A friend's smile will be so touching. A friend's smile will be so warming.
Whoever and wherever that friend he is. Whatever and whichever that friend he is. He is always concerned and looks into our needs. Really a friend in need and a friend indeed.
He is that somebody who won't meddle up things. He is that somebody who won't burden you with things. He is that somebody who tells you not to worry about small things. He is that somebody who tells you not to do bad things.
He is that somebody who wipes our sweat and says. You need a rest. He is that somebody who wipes our tears and says. It is just God's test. He is that somebody who comforts our fears and says. Relax and stand it. He is that somebody who sacrifices his years and says. It is worth it!
A friend knows when to talk and when not to. A friend knows when to hug us and when not to. A friend knows our weaknesses, yet never complaining. A friend knows our heart's desires and always stimulating. A friend knows our silent, hidden, suppressed feeling. A friend knows our rate of heart beat and sick feeling. A friend knows our silly habits and favorite dishes. A friend knows our silly fantasies and wishes.
Yet never laughing at us in any way. Yet never looking down upon us either way. Yet never blaming us for who we are. A true friend indeed is a blessed, rare gift from GOD

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First Love

Love may come many a times in our lives, but the ecstasy and exuberance of first love is the most delicate and memorable among all. First love is perhaps the most intimate feeling that human being share because the time is not ripen yet to see the light of the rough hard core business minded artificial and ruthless world. So the tender soul adjust the softness of the this emotion, which occurs in your heart during adolescence.
A guy awaits for a girl at the gate of the school, from where she gets out everyday and goes back to her home. The lad follows the maiden and ultimately his eyes are in the quest for her face all day long. His mind always paints pink dreams of her rosy cheeks, he hears the violin strings with the way she talks and the fragrance of her hair keeps pampering his nose. These stories never stop to get repeated. Love may come like the breeze as well as like the storm but when it comes at last, it is an absolutely wonderful emotion and the young minds keep drowned in this. Desires are gradually poking one's temperament and often it seems impossible to ignore them.
"The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can never end."... says Benjamin Disraeli. This ignorant, naive, childlike mind plays with these naughty and gay emotions of adolescence when Cupid's arrow strike somebody for the first time at even the 'first sight of the beloved', which we call love at first sight. Theoretically first love can happen in any age or not happen at all. But most people had fallen in love for the first time when they were teenagers. That exciting new experience most of us remember very well during all our life. For an adult his/her own high school problems and the problems of their children seem very funny, silly and simple especially compared with all the difficulties of adult life. Somehow we forget how tragic and full of drama life and relationships were than in our adolescence.
"First love is a little foolish and a lot of curiosity."...says George Bernard Shaw. Actually the adolescent mind is full of curiosity and it finds mystery in almost every event of the world. Therefore when the emotion of love, attraction of mental and physical desires occur for the first time the curiosity and rebelliousness reaches to its height and often attempts something really radical. It can be very happily end into a long term relationship as well as it may result in painful break ups.
People say first love is one of the most uniquely unforgettable things. One may forget everything but not his or her first love. This is not a utopian notion but those who have experienced this once in lifetime, have considered this as the fact. They may left their lovers a long time ago... after that, when they are peacefully settled and living with their families... they still cherish the sovereign and purest of the memories of their first love. When for the first time the break ups happen to anyone, it pains a lot, because the joy and ecstasy one enjoys from the first experience ever of falling in love is like fresh flowers, the perfume is strong and exhibit a extraordinarily long lasting effect.

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