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How to Improve,How to Improve Your Relationships in Life,in Life,Your Relationships
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How to Improve,How to Improve Your Relationships in Life,in Life,Your Relationships
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How to Improve Your Relationships in Life
The deepest beauty of all of life is love and the greatest love you will ever experience, is the love you give. We speak of enlightenment, but what greater enlightenment can exist other than the true love and devotion we have for life itself. The key to all this is the ability to see beauty, everywhere. If you are limited to seeing beauty only where things are beautiful or conform to your expectations, you can not know real love. Real love is the ability to see beauty, everywhere, in everything, and to do so, you will need the universal laws. It is from a universal perspective, far, far beyond the realms of the earth that all the chaos actually turns to order.
This is the purpose of all learning. Learning how, to see and feel and therefore give more Love, more Sacred Love.
A healthy relationship has a foundation
A mutually understood foundation
Not physical, emotional or material
They change like the tides, or the moon, or the winds
Not moral, or religious, they are of the ego they are of the mind.
The exchange of love that lasts
Is built on something beyond the human realm
Something divine, sacred and profoundly eternal
That foundation can be
Truth.
And to know truth we must get past
the guardian at the gate,
the Ego.
Whether you are in a relationship or looking to get into one, the universal laws are a profound gift. It is our reactions to life that cause us drama. If we could live without reaction, and simply stay inspired by hopes and dreams of the future we could stay open hearted, fulfilled and completely in balance during our lives.
But, we do react, and this is the violence we must change in our lives. The more extreme the reaction, no matter how much we feel justified in it, the more violence we are sending to the world. Whether you feel that your parent abused you, or your partner betrayed you, there is always a deeper layer to which you can grow.
On the surface of life, you want to be right, but below the surface of life you want love. Love is not right, and it certainly has no conditions. You must know the difference between the surface, we call this emotion, and below the surface we call the deep stillness.
When I scuba dived in New Zealand South Island, I dropped into the waters from a boat, the water was brown, murky, impossible to see more than half a meter. Then as I decended to 5 meters, the water was crystal clear, I could see literally for miles. The surface was where the plankton and fresh water from the incoming rivers flowed, but beneath there was a mighty ocean of clarity. This is relationship.
We may find ourselves liking and disliking people, but this is the surface, reacting to those likes and dislikes validates, legitimizes that surface. But the surface is not real, not complete, deeper below that surface there is love for our fellow man, woman, as a brother or a sister. Here, we are really aknowledgeing that we are all connected to each other, but on the surface, we feel very separate.
On the surface of life, we all have identities. I am Chris Walker and you are you. But this is a mask we wear, and the relationships we develop at this level are sad. They are poor even if they have wealth, they are reactive and sensitive and short lived. We cannot hold this mask in our privacy. That mask gets undone in our home. We can masquerade in the outside world and parade ourselves as identities, but in the home, we are exposed.
This is at the root of domestic violence. The person who puts on a show to the world will want the show to continue in the home. Like an actor who cannot separate themselves from their character. We see this cause so much drug addiction and self abuse in famous people, they just can't live with themselves in the privacy of their home.
So, non violence begins when we take the following steps.
1. We must avoid reaction
2. We must learn to go deeper than our individual identities
3. We must witness our reflection in others
4. We must accept that our relationship in private is more honest than the mask we wear in public.
5. We must avoid blaming others for how we feel.
Try it, embrace the opportunity to live in a deeper experience of the world than your reactions, beliefs, experiences. You must know that love is at the core of everything, hold that truth. Let your love rise up into the murky waters on the surface of life, and be prepared, when your feel bruised or defensive to stop and dive below to come back to truth.
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