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To keep the fire in our hearts we must ascertain what we want. I find it useful to write it down because it makes it more definite. As we write, we focus on what we want and we may even think of other things that we did not think of before. So, write a list of how you want the magic in your relationship rekindled and be really specific. The next step is to use your imagination and envision a future with all that you want in it. Decide on a time in the future that you want your relationship to have the magic rekindled. Let us say that it is in six months time. You might want to choose a different time span.
Close your eyes and sit as you would in meditation. I prefer to sit upright and with both feet flat on the floor.
Relax and notice your breathing. Focus on your breathing until you feel you are in a calm place.
Then, imagine yourself in six months time being with your loved one and having the magical relationship you want down to the very last detail. Yes, detail is so important.
Notice what you are wearing and what you have on your feet.
Notice how you feel, what you can see, hear, touch, taste, think and what you are doing and saying.
Notice how you are interacting with your loved one.
Really make sure you are in this picture. Now make it bigger! Make the relationship even better than you first envisioned and this will expand how wonderful you feel.
As you experience your magical relationship look back over the last six months and see how you achieved this. What did you need to do differently, what did you need to say differently, how did you need to be?
How do you see your loved one being and how are you interacting together?
Really notice everything that brought you to where you are, six months into the future (or whatever time frame you choose).
Taking time is really important.
When you have done this, step into yourself in the future. Get up and act as if you are six months into the future and really feel all of those same feelings, notice how you are standing and how wonderful you feel.
Really embody everything, feel yourself interacting with your loved one in the way you envisioned.
Then, look back at your original self, sitting on the chair and tell your original self what he/she needs to know in order to move forward and have the rekindled magical relationship that you are experiencing. Spell it out.
Then step back into your original self by sitting on the chair and receive the message from your future self.
Reflect on the message, what you have envisioned and how you felt and now feel. You might like to write down your experience and drawing a picture is a wonderful fun way to capture your experience. Just remember that you do not have to be an artist to do this. I love using the thick crayons that young children use.
By now you must make a decision to take the first step toward achieving what you want. Then use your will to do it. It only has to be a small step but do it. Take the risk. You might not get it right to begin with but, if you do not try, you will never know. When we first started to walk as a child, we stood up, held on to furniture or our parents, fell down, stood up and tried again. Give yourself permission to fall down but do not give up.

Anita Jackson, speaker, counsellor/psychotherapist and healer, is the Author of Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship! Making Love Work.
This Love Doctor Provides Honest Guidance and Reveals The Secret You Must Know to Completely Transform Your Relationship to its Highest Potential.